Relationship Short-Term Love v's Long Lasting Love

1. What are some of the characteristics of short-term love?
- The critical parts of our brain are less active and more focused on the infatuation stage. Neuroscientists suggest that the chemicals dopamine (focus) and oxytocin (bonding) increases in our brains “parts of the brain that light up” when we are in love.
- We are likely to be dressed to the max v’s being in love we may forget to comb our hair.
- Pleasing becomes our number one motivation. Annoyances such as, money problems, negative critical comments, extended family concerns, are easily ignored but may turn into larger issues as the relationship progress.
- We are less like to explore conversations that involve talking about our future with one another because we are so busy with the attraction, attention and dates with one another.


2. What are some of the characteristics of long lasting love?
- As the infatuation stage decreases love increases.
Neuroscientists suggest that the chemicals dopamine (focus) and oxytocin (bonding) increases in our brains “parts of the brain that light up” when we are in love.
- We are less judgmental and more open to each other’s flaws. We choose to use radical acceptance.
- There is no one else we consider making us happier.
- Walls are torn down as we are likely to expose our vulnerable secrets with one another.
- We strive to enrich each other’s lives, meet each other’s needs, agree to disagree at time, as well as maintain our own individuality.
- Our relational deposits help us through our struggles and challenges so that we are better able to view them as ways to grow closer.

3. What are some ways and/or ideas that may be helpful for couples desiring a healthy relationship?
- Ideas that may be helpful include creating a pros and cons list. Jill explains better in her segment!


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